Published: August 23, 2016   Updated: September 8, 2016

A live interview (recorded Jan 7th, 2016) with mentor and facilitator Erik Tyler author of “The Best Advice So Far” and FacilitatingXYZ creators Meg Bolger & Sam Killermann. Erik dives into facilitator mindsets, dynamics of when a facilitator becomes a student, what it means to truly decide you’re going to love people, and much more.

To check out more information about Erik find him here and connect with him @BestAdviceSoFar on Twitter.

Conversation Index

Erik introduction! Why he calls himself a people lover
How Erik feels about the word facilitator (mini lesson on etymology!)
Making your future easier
Honesty in the heat of the moment
When facilitation gets real – “I don’t want to like these people”
When we can let our “students” become the “teachers”
Facilitator being part of who you *are*
What makes someone a *good* facilitator?
Can you learn to be a good facilitator? Can you learn things from books!?
“You like me and you care about me, and you decided that before you met me”
A moment with someone “objectively” unlikeable
Connections and common ground – a forever facilitator skill
What type of person does Erik find most difficult to love
It’s not our jobs to change people
If we think we’ve got it figured out… we’re in trouble

Rapid fire questions

Three words to describe facilitation
What is a ground rule that you would apply to the whole world?
What stresses you out as a facilitator? 
Advice for your 5-year-ago self? 
Not directly facilitation related experience ever facilitator should have?
What book do you recommend the most?
One piece of advice you would give to anyone listening 

Recommended Content

Erik’s book – The Best Advice So Far

Book Recommendations:

Blogs and Sites:

  • We! (Chad Littlefield’s Site on creating connections using experiential methods/education)
  • Myths of the Mirror  (Writer writing about writing who facilitates their comments feed)
  • Coffee Shop Conversations (Facilitating in blended families)


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